As well as her experiences of being a frequently tokenized black queer woman who is routinely erased from narratives for a more convenient fiction: that the LGBT community is all gay, all white, all cisgender, and all rich; a mom to one kid and one stepkid; wife to one geek; and president of BiNet USA, one of the oldest national bisexual non-profit organizations in the United States.
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On Friday, join a conversation on the new Executive Order and steps the President has taken to expand opportunity for the LGBT community. Valerie Jarrett, Senior Advisor to the President, will host for a Tumblr Q&A this Friday, July 25 at 1pm ET.
“The prevailing logic has remained that if I am out as a bisexual woman, I must be asking for something: discrimination, harassment, or even sexual assault.” — Faith Cheltenham
No one should ever feel that they are “asking” for discrimination, harassment, or sexual assault, either in or out of the workplace. Unfortunately, however, many lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender, or LGBT, individuals are made to believe they deserve discrimination simply due to their sexual orientation and gender identity.
Faith Cheltenham of BiNet USA recounts her experiences of sexual harassment in her workplace when disclosing her bisexuality to her colleagues; even her supervisor said that she was asking for sexual innuendos from co-workers.
In addition to describing her experiences as a black bisexual woman—which were more difficult in large part due to the “multiplier effect” of sexual orientation and race-based discrimination and bias… According to Cheltenham:
It is unfair that so many bisexual women like me have to choose between being visible and being safe at work. It’s unjust that so many LGBTQ people have to choose between being employed and being open in their identity.
Please CLICK HERE to read more about workplace discrimination faced by bisexual + other LGBT workers
Some bisexuals who felt they were being made scapegoats turned to political organizing. They formed groups like BiNet USA, a coalition that has sought to win acceptance by gay rights advocates, who have not always welcomed them personally or as allies.
Martha: I hear BOP has big plans for the Ashley Rukes Pride Parade this year. What should people expect? And how can they participate?
Lou: We’ve got a nice big 45-foot-long bi flag that people can help carry, and we are giving marchers free t-shirts with our new BOP logo.
Martha: You are going to need lots of people to carry a 45-foot-long flag!
Camille: Yes, we will! With the flag we are encouraging people to come line up with us on 3rd Street South between Marquette and 2nd Avenue at 10:00 am on Sunday so we can get started off right; however, we always welcome people to jump in with us when we get to where they are watching the parade and jump out when they get tired! We’ll have people working the crowd, inviting people to join us. The t-shirts are in a wagon we bring along so we’ll be handing them out all the way down the parade route.
Martha: The Pride Festival in Loring Park in Minneapolis runs all day Saturday and Sunday. What will be going on at the BOP booth, where is it, and how can people help?
Lou: We will give out lots and lots of free stickers. You can pick up a Bi Pride button, a copy of BOP’s new brochure, or a new BOP t-shirt, as well as some great new bi bling. Please come talk to us to learn all about the Bisexual Organizing Project.
We’re also excited to kick off our brand new Bi+ Story Project. Bi+ Story Project aims to collect and share the stories bisexual, pansexual, fluid, unlabeled, and queer (bi+) people in order to increase our visibility, contribute to greater understanding of our resiliency, and communicate the specific needs of our communities. We invite you to come visit the booth to share your stories with trained volunteers and to learn more about this exciting project.
Camille: Besides picking up information on BOP and bi pride stickers and buttons, our booths also serve as an informal gathering place for people to hang out. It’s a big part of Pride for a lot of us. Our booth numbers are B53 & B55 on the south side of the lake (towards Dunn Brothers).
March with BOP in the parade on Sunday, June 29th down Hennepin Avenue in downtown Minneapolis! This year we have a 45’ bi flag to carry and we need your help! Line up with us on 3rd Street South between Marquette Ave and 2nd Avenue by 10:00am. We are unit 42 between the BiCities truck and the roller girls. Don’t expect to park close by so give yourself plenty of time to walk over.
FREE SHIRTS with our new logo for all the people marching! Bi, pan, fluid, queer, unlabled and our allies are all welcome! We want to reflect the entire spectrum of our community!
Not sure you can/want to walk the whole parade route? Find a seat near the start of the parade and watch units 1-41, then jump in with us when we get to your spot. March as long as you want then hop out and watch the rest of the parade!
Meeting Spot: Line-up on 41st Street between Madison & Park at 11AM. We are Group #19 in Section 0 [zero] at the Front of the Parade. See the official NYC Pride “Order of March” chart (look for New York Area Bisexual Network entry).
Calling ALL Bisexual, Non-Monosexual, SGL (Same Gender Loving), Queer, Questioning, Cisgender, Transgender, Genderqueer, Poly and just plain old Bi-friendly Gay, Lesbian + "Straight-But-Not-Narrow" folks who live, work or play in NYC.
This year don’t get left standing on the sidelines. Instead, please come and join us in the Bisexual/Non-Monosexual + Queer-identified Contingent in New York City’s 45th Annual LGBT Pride Parade on Sunday June 29th 2013 and be part of all the fun and excitement.
Not that much of a groups person? Not sure who to march with? The New York Area Bisexual Network (NYABN) welcomes EVERYONE regardless of class, caste, religion, ethnicity, gender/gender-identity, sexual orientation, dis/ability, age, income, education, job(or lack thereof), etc., etc., etc.
You can RSVP on Facebook(pretty public), on Meetup(more discrete) or Just Show Up and Join In the Fun!
Joining the contingent is a great way to create positive bisexual visibility. And it’s super fun - who wouldn’t love the opportunity to show bi pride alongside bisexual superheroes? To join in, RSVP on Facebook, or on Meetup(more discrete) or Just Show Up and Join In the Fun!
“In the silence, bisexual people are left wondering who will stand with them. Both in the faith world and the LGBT world there are great gaps in understanding. This guide can help religious and movement leaders to serve the whole community.”
This first of its kind book urges faith leaders to break the silence on bisexuality and fully welcome bisexual people into their congregations. It’s particularly timely because while the LGBT movement has seen great progress in recent years— with marriage equality taking center stage — even that conversation has largely been limited to couples in which both partners identify as gay or lesbian. There has been little to no conversation on same-sex or opposite sex marriages in which one or both individuals identify as bisexual, nor larger attention paid to other issues of relevance to bisexual people.
Questions that the guidebook aims to answer include: How can a congregation become welcoming and inclusive of bisexuals? What does Scripture say about bisexuality? Can a minister or rabbi be openly bisexual and serve a congregation? … It’s a multi faith compilation full of stories and resources that’ll help religious communities take the necessary steps towards full inclusion of sexual and gender minorities.
"This guidebook is designed to help congregations understand bisexuality and to encourage faith communities to “make the invisible visible.” Our hope is that religious leaders and congregations will use this guidebook to inspire theological reflection and action in their faith communities. This guidebook is written to address the broad spectrum of American congregations. It is our hope that the information it contains will be relevant or adaptable to Jewish, Christian, Unitarian Universalist, and Islamic faith communities.”
“Heather Cassell is a freelance journalist and travel writer who founded the online women´s travel magazine, Girls That Roam, in 2012. Her passion for writing is heavily focused on LGBT issues, as she´s been covering our interests for more than 20 years!
In addition to Girls That Roam, Heather covers women´s issues, health and LGBT business news for The Bay Area Reporter. She´s also the marketing and sponsorship director of EDEN Pride Events, an event and lifestyle company that produces events for women and their friends.
Heather considers the most rewarding aspect of her career as ″meeting all different kinds of people and traveling.″ She feels especially lucky to be able to do it with her partner, Geena Dabadghav, aka ´Super G.´”
I first 'came out' as a lesbian, but within weeks began identifying as queer. A few years passed before I started identifying myself as fluid, and it was almost 10 years after my first 'coming out' that I began to call myself bisexual.
The bisexual pride flag represents my journey, not only to find myself but also the bisexual community, and its nearly 50 years of history. The resiliency of the bi community helped me create a context for my journey and ensured that while my path remains unique, I need not walk it alone.
The Los Angeles Bi Task Force was founded in 2008 and has been a non-profit since 2010. It promotes Education, Advocacy, and Cultural Enrichment for the bisexual, fluid, pansexual and all other Middle Sexuality Community(s) in the Greater Los Angeles Area as well as aims to develop a future bi resource center.
Signature LABTF Events include Educational Workshops and Panels, Visibility at Pride Events, the Annual Bi Arts Fest to honor Bi Visibility Day, and the Bi Leaders Holiday Party.
Los Angeles Bi Task Force Bisexual Resource List: GREATER LA AREA
We have received a firm commitment from NYC Pride on its intention to be inclusive of bisexual communities and identities this year at Pride. We also feel confident that NYC Pride will welcome bisexual community participation in the planning stages for future NYC Pride events…
Howard, known as the “Mother of Pride” for her work in coordinating a rally and then the Christopher Street Liberation Day March to commemorate the first anniversary of the Stonewall Riots. She also originated the idea of a week-long series of events around Pride Day which became the genesis of the annual LGBT Pride celebrations that are now held around the world every June. Brenda passed away in 2005, but her memory still beats strong and fights on in each and every one of us working for unequivocal equality.
No, it’s not because I’m actually straight or because I’m actually gay but because of the inevitable “bi now, gay later” response or dramatic eye roll that happens when I come out. The truth is, I do identify as bisexual and I have for as long as I could remember…
I was 13 years old and I thought everyone just chose between being gay or straight. After Google-searching about sexuality, I found the term bisexual, and I’m pretty sure the heavens opened up and the angels sang. That word made sense to me …
It didn’t get much easier when I finally understood my sexuality. If anything, it got harder. A lot harder. Bullies would call me “gay” and I would defiantly respond, “No, I’m not. I’m bisexual”… As I got older, so did the bullies. Except this time it was both straight and gay people who decided to have a go at me for my sexuality. I didn’t feel quite accepted by straight people, who continually mislabeled me as gay, and gay people thought it was weird that I dated girls…
You would think that the place I felt most comfortable sharing my sexual identity would be on an LGBT platform. But just from my few first posts as The Advocate magazine’s bisexual correspondent, I’ve seen the exact comments I feared in the Facebook posts and article comments.
We’ve fought so hard to break free and be accepted outside of the heteronormative binary boxes only to create our own homonormative binary boxes…
I have trouble saying I’m bi, not because I don’t think I’m bi but because of the things members from my own community will say and do in reaction. I realize this may sound like a soapbox, and you know what — maybe it is. Because within our entire community, each of us has been fighting for validation since the day we realized we were queer. We’ve been fighting for the right to be heard and to be seen for who we truly are. I’ve been fighting for that too, except some of my main opponents have been people I should be able to call my brothers and sisters.
D’Amico responded to the letter on Langley’s Facebook wall. “Thanks Stacey,” wrote the mayor. "It’s not ok to make fun of people. We both know that and I certainly wasn’t intending to ….
The same weekend, gay comedian Alec Mapa tweeted a joke that many bisexual activists found biphobic. The tweet, cosigned by Michelle Visage of RuPaul’s Drag Race, and later taken down … After several Twitter users called out the problematic nature of Mapa’s tweet, the Baby Daddy star apologized.